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给予家人反馈的一些提示



写在前面

Brene Brown 一直是一个我非常喜欢的作者。我也经常推荐她的《脆弱的力量》系列书籍。今天分享的从她的书《无所惧畏》的这十条规则的灰色图片,是为千挂在他书房墙上提醒自己的内容。最下面的图片也是在对话中我们经常需要彼此提醒的一件事,那就是道歉的意义。


希望这两张图片的内容在你的家庭对话里都能派得上用场。


翻译:Maria



Engaged Feedback Checklist


I know I’m ready to give feedback when:

  1. I’m ready to sit next to you rather than across from you

  2. I’m willing to put the problem in front of us rather than between us (or sliding it toward you)

  3. I’m ready to listen, ask questions, and accept that I may not fully understand the issue

  4. I want to acknowledge what you do well instead of picking apart your mistakes

  5. I recognize your strengths and how you can use them to address your challenges

  6. I can hold you accountable without shaming or blaming you

  7. I’m willing to own my part

  8. I can genuinely thank you for your efforts rather than criticize your for your failings

  9. I can talk about how resolving these challenges will lead to your growth and opportunity

  10. I can model the vulnerability and openness that I expect to see from you

From "Daring Greatly" by Brene Brown





参与式反馈清单


我知道自己在以下情况下可以预备好提供反馈:

  1. 我愿意坐在你的身边,而不是坐在你的对面;

  2. 我愿意把问题摆在面前,而不是置于你我之间(或把问题推给你);

  3. 我愿意倾听、发问,并同意自己可能并没完全弄明白问题是什么;

  4. 我想承认你做得好的地方,而不是挑剔你的错误;

  5. 我认识到你的能力所在,以及你如何利用这些优势应对挑战;

  6. 我可以让你负起责任,而不是羞辱或责怪你;

  7. 我愿意承担自己的责任;

  8. 我可以真诚地感谢你所做出的努力,而不是批评你的失败;

  9. 我可以谈论如何面对这些挑战,会使你成长并迎来机遇;

  10. 我可以在自己身上显出软弱和敞开的榜样,这是我期待从你身上所看到的。

摘自布伦·布朗 Brene Brown 所著的《无所畏惧》








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